Happy New folks.!! 2017 has kicked off in a really great way for me till now and hoping that well wishes and good work will always repay.
One of the biggest things, I have learned in first 15 days of 2017 (I would say, in the last couple of days) to understand the meaning of “Reciprocity”. I know that it is a big word but it was unknown to me until I heard it from someone.
“Dude, I am not reciprocative”, one of my friends said and my immediate reaction was ””aah, what did you say?”. The reply came after a silence of 3 seconds. “Forget it, I don’t want to talk about it”. To be honest, I didn’t know the deep meaning of this word and I had to say “ok, fine”.
But, Out of curiosity I researched about the word and How does it relate to our behavior. Really? Does that sound too hard and tough? Yes. It is correct. We may not realize the consequences before we use such heavy word in the conversation but it is our sense of understanding and moreover, our maturity level which need to be looked at.
I knew the meaning of word “reciprocal” because when we were a kid, we studied reciprocal of 8 is 1/8. Funny.. Huu… So, that’s how I was thinking to understand before looking into many psychology blogs and books. So, This blog is based on that research which is making me more comfortable to interact with people around me.
What is reciprocity?
In a simple word, Reciprocity is the simple word which means that people should repay in kind what another person has provided for them. That means people try to give back the kind of treatment they receive from another.
Who are reciprocative people?
The people who believe in the theory of reciprocity. Nobody in this world can survive without this. So, saying that I am not reciprocative is not always true. It could be reciprocative from your other aspects of mutual exchange but not always correctly.
Importance of Reciprocity
Reciprocity is not only a strong determining factor of human behavior; it is a powerful method for gaining one’s compliance with a request. The rule of reciprocity has the power to trigger feelings of indebtedness even when faced with an uninvited favor and irrespective of liking the person who executed the favor.
It is very important to build reciprocity in a relationship whether it is a friendship or life partner. Based on different psychological posts, people are very afraid to talk about it.
Building a reciprocity between a new relationship or a growing relationship is very different from the one who is committed. People often make mistakes in understanding their colleague, partners or friends.I am writing here as a growing relationship and a new relationship.
In a new/growing relationship, reciprocity needs to be handled very carefully. because this could be the building blocks of it and if this gets developed then you would probably reach the next steps of the relationship. I would definitely assume reciprocity in my new relationship because this would make thing clear and give an idea to know people around me. A non-reciprocative person usually hates taking about sharing things in an equal manner, jumping in for more than expected help and moreover reacting with people as per the situation. Negative reciprocity also occurs whenever there would be a bad effect of it.
Being Reciprocative is good(Most of the time)
When two people decide to develop a healthy, interdependent, reciprocal relationship, it is wise for them to take the time to talk about their personal value system and what characteristics they believe in creating a healthy relationship. The best way to deal with such(reply to my friend’s question) scenario is to go with the possible best solution. Saying, that I am not reciprocative would never help anybody. This would always bring friction in the relationship.Also, Talking more in detail and sharing the idea would be helpful to both people.
Reciprocity was a cornerstone of human development and also a healthy relationship. Hence when someone is saying that I am not a reciprocative would never help to build a relationship.